Reacting is like an automated response. As humans we are at times a little robotic. We sometimes do something so often that we no longer have to think about how we do it. We are so automated that it is just happening without conscious thought. When our routine is altered it can greatly affect our level of stress. If you would like to change the pattern of behavior from “reacting” to “responding”, you may introduce a breath and had 4 seconds silence before falling back on the automated reaction. After these 4 seconds of breathing, you will bring self into the conscious memory so that you can respond to the situation rather than falling back onto her subconscious memory and reacting.
It’s just a thought – one breath! Four seconds! Sounds too easy. It is easy but it is a choice. Our patterns of beliefs fuel our triggers and our reactions.
A reaction is a trained behavior to trigger automated response. Many people aware of the power of being, which means present in the moment and in a conscious state. “Being in the moment” means you won’t bring the past into that moment, and won’t bring a reaction into the present moment.
Enjoying life and having a fulfilling life is about experiencing life and responding to it as it comes along. Reacting to our triggers is not living in the moment. The first step to stopping ourselves from reacting is to uncover what we are reacting to. Think about the times when you have felt some sort of negative feeling. What was your reaction to this feeling?
Coaches support their clients via “being a coach”. He or she has the privilege to be invited to clients’ life and observe the triggers that exist in coaches’ life too. Coaches must know the triggers they have as well so that when they are coaching they don’t appear in their coaching. Reacting to something a client says in the coaching will have devastating effects. The coaching should shift from being in the past and coach centered to being in the moment and being client centered. Staying in the moment and not making yourself reacting to the situation during coaching is crucial to create the success of being a coach. Take a long breath… WAIT… the 4 seconds break will shift the situation from an automated reaction to a meaningful responding of “BEING”.
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